My kids are very fortunate that they have not faced much misfortune in life, but it does make it difficult to teach them to be resilient when they do encounter adversity. As much as I want to protect my kids, I don’t want their first experiences with adversity to be when they are out on their own.
So, what can we do to help promote resiliency in young kids?
- Help kids find the words to describe their feelings.
- Encourage a safe place to “talk it out.”
- Provide perspective. Even what seems like “the worst” possible outcome is survivable. Make sure they know that this too, will pass. They might not forget and the hurt might not go away, but everything is survivable.
- Encourage kids to consider multiple solutions to problems.
- Avoid keeping your kid in a bubble. I am a helicopter mom by nature, but I am learning to allow my kids to take risks.
- Give kids the opportunity to problem solve independently (but oh how I want to jump in and help!).
- Help your kids see the value in making mistakes.
- Provide models of resiliency.
As a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam, I have found a lot of movies to share with my kids that have characters that model resiliency. A few of my favorites streaming this month are:
Disclosure: I have received free Netflix streaming and a streaming device as part of my membership on the Netflix Stream Team. All opinions expressed within this post are my own.