I WON’T LOSE MY BOYS TO “THE EVERYDAY”
As a two-professor family, my husband and I have the luxury of a seemingly endless summer of fun with the boys. However, when school is back in session it feels as though we start to lose the boys a little. To their friends. To their activities. To the you-would-never-believe-how-high pile of grant proposals, course preps, committee work, and manuscripts.
I refused to lose this time with my boys. Because it is only 940 Saturdays and childhood is over. That’s it. Too fast. I’m savoring the todays with the boys and not putting the todays off until tomorrow. Tomorrow will come before I am ready…and I don’t want to regret my yesterdays.
MAKE EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES A FAMILY AFFAIR
As the boys get older we work to juggle extra curricular activities like soccer, baseball, and swim. Instead of conquering and dividing, we will attend the practice as a family when it makes sense (re: bedtimes, school). We enjoy together time – whether it is cheering one child on in soccer or waiting for another at the bus stop. If we can, we do it together.
ENCOURAGE THE CUDDLES, EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL SMOTHERED
My kids have a habit of curling on me like cats. One will sit on one hip, another on my lap, and a third in whatever spare place he can find. Sometimes I just want space…but even when I can’t breathe because one has decided to settle atop my head, I try to take in the moment. Because these boys will be men someday…and it will be really creepy if they continue to crawl in my bed to give me back rubs or sit on my lap the moment I get home. I only get those 940 Saturdays and I have used too many already.
CREATE TRADITIONS UNIQUE TO YOUR FAMILY
We have lots of “Diapered Knights” specific traditions. Some of which you would find odd. No, let’s face it, most of which you will find odd. But they are OUR traditions…the ones the boys will remember forever.
The boys leave “messages” for their baby brother before they go to sleep. Like hopes for the future. Often with a loving, but creepy spin.
We say I love you lots. And when we really want to make our message clear, we’ll say, “I love you more than doody.” I won’t even TRY to explain that one to you…but if I could it would make perfect sense, I promise.
HAVE FRIDAY FAMILY MOVIE AND GAME NIGHT ANY NIGHT
Sometimes the weekends get so filled with sports and social event that those TGIF activities get pushed to the side. There is no reason why your family night has to be on Friday night – it could be Saturday morning, Tuesday after school, or Thursday after dinner. As long as your family finds some time to play together, you won’t regret letting the time pass before you had the chance.
We like to gather together and stream a movie from Netflix that we all can enjoy. There are lots of options for the little guys that my husband and I can tolerate: